On any humdrum day, I look around my spotless home, take in the aromas of homemade cuisine, wipe my hands on my handmade apron, and wonder what it’s all for. Or rather, is this what I’m here for? Was I born to fold laundry and make beds? Is the height of my existence in giving birth and changing diapers? Is my husband actually pleased with my contribution, or does he secretly wish I would work outside the home?
If you’re a homemaker, housewife or stay-home-mom, then you know these woes all too well, I’ll bet. No matter how many thank you’s for our service and dotes on our from-scratch pastries we get, our minds still manage to wonder… is it enough?
Particularly when other women are breaking Olympic records, pioneering in medicine, or building business empires is it easy for us to compare ourselves, our accomplishments, and worst of all, our purpose.
While gold medals and silver plaques are amazing feats, an invaluable crown worth more than rubies is given to the woman who abides by Yah in servitude and humility. Wonder no more. Here are 8 reasons to love being a stay-at-home wife!
You Are In Obedience to Yah
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:4-5 KJV
To be a keeper at home is what YAHUAH would have us to be taught, and for us to teach our daughters, and for our daughters to teach their daughters. The New Testament Greek translates “keeper at home” as ‘Oikourgos‘, from the root: a guard, to be ‘ware’; meaning: a stayer at home, to work from home, a good housekeeper.
Putting in work in your home, guarding it from folly and tending to it’s needs is the will of Yahuah for you, particularly if you’re already blessed to be a homemaker. Take joy in knowing you’re in obedience to Yah in your devotion, and never forget that with obedience to the Word is life everlasting!
You Are Where You Were Designed to Be
Have you ever been in the workforce? Overworked, underpaid, and pressured to perform above your physical capacity? A slave to a corporation?
The reason the enemy wants women in the workforce so bad, is because women are workerbees. We are efficient, diligent, and highly intelligent creatures who are good on our feet. This is a fact. We simply know how to get a job done more easily and quickly than men (otherwise, would we be qualified to be their helpers?).
And the other truth is, the very fabric of our existence is woven together with a servant’s disposition. We were created to serve. But notice the Word doesn’t say we were created to serve the world. No. We were created to serve our own husbands and families.
And YAHUAH said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18 KJV
The capacity to serve, accomplish and innovate was gifted to women, as a gift to men. But not so we can cast our pearls before the swine of corporations, offices, and loan sharks. For us to do our part in building up the Kingdom, one home at a time, in our own homes.
An added proof of this is the relief, rest, and reward women report when transitioning from full-time work, to becoming homemakers! Speaking from personal experience, homemaking is one of the most tasking professions I’ve taken on, but it affords me the most rest, and doesn’t rip away my femininity, softness or creativity. In fact, being at home all the time FEEDS, WATERS, and NURTURES my need to be soft, to laugh, and to be colorful.
The sacrifices we make for our homes don’t drain us like the work of the world, because we were actualy created for one and not the other. Choose ye this day whom ye will serve, and rejoice in the House of YAHUAH.
You Know What’s Happening Under Your Roof
As a homemaker, which we’ve learned is a guard of her home, you know who’s sick and why; you know when you’re running low on your husband’s favorite snack; you know if it’s time to call the plumber or not. You are fully aware of the workings of your home. And not just what meets the eye, you know the spiritual workings, too. Who’s struggling with anger lately? Who’s frustrated and discontent? Who needs your prayers for their health? You’re on top of it all.
Because you know what’s actually going on in your home and with your family, you can properly guard them (with prayer and wisdom). And because you can properly guard them, you can properly nourish them (with servitude and intercession).
And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock.
Matthew 7:25 KJV
Perhaps you may not know this, but you are the pillar of rest and renewal in your home. And it doesn’t matter how beautiful or intricate a pillar may be; if it’s not on a firm foundation, it cannot serve it’s purpose. Love being a homemaker because you actually get the privilege to… make your home!
You Aren’t Being Taken Advantage of by a Corporation
I know I’ve touched on this above, but it deserves it’s own point. I don’t know about you, but reentering the workforce is a nightmare of a thought for me. To be disrespected, have my personal life dismissed, and be constantly overlooked for extremely mediocre colleagues who happen to be more well connected and allied, is not where I desire to be on a daily basis. By any means.
Whenever I feel ungrateful, even for a moment, that I’m washing the dishes for the fourth time today, or the laundry just keeps piling, I think about how much worse off I was with a boss who cared nothing about me and only focused on my performance.
I thank Yah for His Grace (HALLELUYAH) and that His Love for me is everlasting, non dependent on my performance.
This investment of my gifts and talents are going towards an eternal cause, not just some temporal plantation where us Israelite women in particular are treated as sacrificial lambs. For that alone, I sing the praises of YAHUAH.
You Can Be Feminine
This just may be my favorite part of being a housewife.
When I complete my chores, tasks, and errands, you know what I have time to do?
Paint my nails. Get a facial. Workout. Soak in a bubble bath. Go for a walk by our beautiful lake. Read a book. Take a nap. Write this post on this blog!
I can get watered. I can relax and laugh a little. I can show myself some attention. I can be… a woman!
And being feminine is about more than wearing pink dresses and putting out fresh flowers. As a homemaker, it’s about enjoying process over result. Slowing down and embracing the life you have. Realizing the blessing in your most mundane tasks. And allowing the Holy Spirit to minister to you as you minister to your family.
Being able to take advantage of the safe haven that is your home is a blessing we shouldn’t overlook in a world plagued by homelessness and poverty. Moreover, taking advantage of this safe haven means becoming softer, sweeter, quieter, and more joyous, because His yoke is easy and His burden is light!
Your Family Needs Your Love & Attention
Despite what the world tells us, the chef, the nanny, and the maid CANNOT do YOUR job as a wife or mother. Period.
It is the affection, compassion, and undivided, undying loyalty and attention of a woman fully committed that holds a family together by the grace of YAHUAH.
There was nothing worse for me when I was in the world, than to come home after a long shift, and not be able to console my daughter or make a meal because I was so worn out and all I could think about was showering and pulling a thick comforter over my shoulder. That feeling was mortifying and so dark, to think that I had given ALL of me to the world, to the point where I had NOTHING left over for my own offspring, day after day. I don’t miss that, and I know my family doesn’t either.
Your husband may enjoy a chef’s perfect meals and your children may enjoy the nanny’s Elmo impression. But they don’t need perfection or excellence. They need YOU. And with a loving homemaker at the core of the place they call home, your family is covered.
You Need Your Family’s Love & Attention
Yes, I said it. You need your family just as much as they need you. Their unconditional love and careful attention waters you, whether you choose to admit it or not.
This world offers us riches, fame, status, and glorification. But it simply cannot offer us the gems and luxury of a blessed, prayerful, and playful family who know their final destination.
Just as the Holy Spirit uses you when you serve your family, the Holy Spirit uses your husband to bless you when he rubs your feet, or when your children invite you to play. It’s in the small, intimate, everyday moments that we often overlook, where we find fellowship to be most fulfilling.
Your role is not just give, give, give. It is also receive, receive, receive. Balance. Being at home grants you countless opportunities to not just bless your family, but to experience the blessing of being in a family. And that is priceless.
You’re Present to Train Your Daughters
(You’re also present to show your sons what kind of wife he should pursue and how to treat a lady, but your daughters are looking to you to show them who to be and who not to be).
I cannot emphasize this enough. With Cardi B, transgenders, and masculine independent warrior women on every screen, the enemy has very clear plans for your daughter and you better believe that he is being proactive about recruiting them for his dark army.
The world wants your daughters to be haughty, promiscuous, confused, angry at men, and willing mules for feminism, debauchery, abominations and the outright justification of sin against Yah’s Word!
But when you’re present, you can SHOW your princesses the beauty of being a feminine woman, the joy of following YAH, the rewards of obedience, the honor of submission, and the renewal in resting in a woman’s place. Then once they’re in the world, they can clearly distinguish between right and wrong, notice the backwardness in society for themselves, equipped with the whole Armour of YAH, and represent Him like the Royal Priestesses that they are!
Again, Titus 2 exhorts women to teach young ladies to be sober, chaste, discreet, keepers at home, submissive, lovers of their children and husbands, and worshippers of The Most High so that the Word will not be mocked. You think TikTok and Instagram are teaching that to your daughters? Nay, the very opposite.
Grooming and educating your daughters with honor and chastity is only something you can do by the Grace of YAHUAH. As a homemaker, you’ve taken up this most noble task, and your deeds will not go unnoticed by our Heavenly Father who sees all and is a rewarder of the just and unjust alike.
And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.
Colossians 3:23-24
So many more reasons to love homemaking exist but didn’t make it on this list, because they’re for you to uncover and embrace on your journey. Even when you question your husband’s true desires for you, or your purpose in a world full of #BossBaes and female CEOs, take comfort in knowing that you are caring for your family, resting in your femininity, being who you were called to be, raising up the next generation of generation raisers, and doing what only you can do.
BONUS REASON TO LOVE BEING A STAY-HOME-WIFE: “It is not good for man to be alone.” Genesis 2:18
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